When someone asks me an opinion on something, I sometimes respond, “That’s kinda gay.” Or, I’ll simply say, “That’s gay.”
My intentions behind using the word “gay” are not to lay harm on the homosexual community. It’s just another way for me to say, “I don’t like it”, or “That’s stupid.”
A Little Background
I am what some people would label as homophobic.
When I was younger, I was almost kidnapped by a pedophile and taken back to his hotel room to join him and his “friends” (God knows what they would’ve done to me).
In another instance, I was bagging groceries at a grocery store in Las Vegas when one of our frequent customers came up to me and fondled my ass. I complained to the security guard, and the guy was promptly removed.
While those two incidents don’t seem like much, when combined with other life experiences, I found myself having trouble trusting those who enjoyed the homosexual lifestyle.
That being said, I do have several gay friends, some who I hang out and/or talk to quite often.
Think B4 You Speak
Via Twitter, I came across a website called ThinkB4YouSpeak. This site resonated with me because one of my gay friends is often offended when I use the word “gay” in a derogatory context.
The idea of the site is to get out a public message that using derogatory terms in reference to homosexuals reinforces the overall contempt for the homosexual lifestyle.
The website has stories of those who have committed suicide over bullying or been a victim of a hate crime.
The goal of the site is to eliminate this intended and unintended hate speak.
Here’s a quote from the Get Informed portion of their site:
A lot of anti-LGBT [lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender] language is said carelessly, and isnâ€™t intended as negative or hurtful. Understand what youâ€™re saying, and think about the potential consequences of the words you choose.
Do you find yourself using the words “gay” or “faggot” in a derogatory context? If so, what are your thoughts on the ThinkB4YouSpeak campaign?
I definitely will be a little more careful with what I say. Not because I feel guilty, but there has to be another way for me to express myself more intelligently without indirectly putting down what I consider a minority group.
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