Have you ever had your mother say to you, “I brought you into this world… And I can take you out!” As cruel as it is to hear your own mother threaten to kill you, it does have a slight ring of logical sense. My mother did bring me into this world. Wouldn’t it be logical that she would be the same one to take me out? Fortunately, life doesn’t quite work that way. If your own mother–whom your are obviously from–can’t make a claim on your life, why is it that you expect to be able to?
When you came into this world at birth, you were full of potential. The potential I speak of is the high expectations of parents, siblings, grandparents, etc. Eventually, these expectations become your expectations added with a few of your own. It is very likely you will never meet all of your expectations. But is that a bad thing? Is it a bad thing that you as an individual will never reach the expectations set for yourself? What right do you have in this life to be disappointed at the goals that you have no right to achieve? Now you may be asking yourself, “Did I read this correctly? I have no right to the goals I am seeking?” That is right; you did read correctly.
The truth is: you have no claim to life. Since you did nothing to earn your life on this planet, you have no claim to the life you live. In other words, the goals and expectations you as a person have given yourself are not yours to give. You are merely a visitor on this planet and you do not have the right to stake a claim on the life you live.
Generally speaking, the life we live is the one we try to create for ourselves. Ideally, all of us want our own needs, wants, and desires fulfilled before anything or anybody else. This should not be the case; we have no right to demand that all of these things be fulfilled.
One of the things I want you to realize is that it’s ludicrous to assign yourself wants, needs, and desires to accomplish. You need to get these from somewhere else. You wouldn’t walk into a house that isn’t yours and start redecorating without permission. Likewise, you wouldn’t begin to assign yourself tasks and chores to do before consulting with the owner of the house. Now imagine what would happen if you did decide to do all of the things you thought needed to be done with the house before the owner was consulted. Wouldn’t you imagine that the owner would be displeased with you and your work whenever he or she returned? If the owner had been consulted, you would have had a better understanding of how the house ran, and what tastes and decor the owner appreciated.
We are all living on someone else’s property while we are on this Earth. The question you must ask yourself is whose property is it? Who does Earth–and all the creatures living in it–belong to? If you can answer those two questions correctly, you are well on your way to realizing that you are not the best judge of how to take care of yourself. The owner knows best how to take care of the Earth, and of you.
I hope that you can now see why staking a claim on your life and your expectations isn’t your job. First, you need to acknowledge that there is at least an owner. If you can acknowledge that there is an owner, then you must ask yourself who is that owner? Perhaps the answer to that question is more obvious than you think.