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Is Forced Change Ever a Good Thing?

I spent most of last week in Texarkana, Texas spending Thanksgiving with my wife’s family. I didn’t exactly go there to work on anything; I went to have Thanksgiving. Of course, my presence there was a little awkward and nobody knew why I was really there.

Predictably, the arrows were hurled in my direction and I did my best to dodge them. I do have to stop and ponder a bit when someone else tells me I am “broken.” In my eyes, I am as broken as everyone else. I don’t need a therapist, a wife, or anybody for that matter telling me about all of my imperfections. I know some of those imperfections, but others I do not know about. I see the broken part of me as being a side-effect of a sinful nature. I am not perfect. But I also am not broken.

To say that I need to be fixed is like saying that compared to everyone else, I am a defect. I have exceeded the upper-bounds of normalcy and I need to be analyzed further so that more people like me aren’t produced. That is absurd! I am not defective. I am not an alcoholic, drug-abuser, wife-beater, or anything that I would consider a danger to myself and others. I get angry, defensive, and manipulative just like everyone else does.

To say I need to be fixed is forcing a change on me. I have had twenty-five years of my life to learn the bad habits and behaviors that make me, me. I seriously doubt I can change my behavior in weeks, months, or even years. Furthermore, what is the motivational factor of me changing anyways? Is it to gain something that considers me a defect in the first place?

As a side note, I did take a lot of credit for many hurtful things I have done. Hindsight is indeed twenty-twenty, and I cannot change the past. However, it is my opinion that holding onto the past hinders the future. To read a rather convicting article on taking credit (or blame), please read the following outside article: Credit is Way Over-Rated.

Writer and software engineer Ronald Huereca has been a developer at notable agencies like iThemes and 10up. His varied background has him working with WordPress since 2006, eventually creating his own plugin which, of course, lead to more. He spends quite a bit of his time volunteering with the WordPress project as a core and polyglot contributor. With all of his passions, writing has been the way Ronald expresses himself best. He has written both technical books as well as fiction. Some of his works include Project Mayhem, Mindefusement, and WordPress and Ajax. “You can only delay the inevitable” is his favorite quote. Ronald enjoys reading Stephen King and John Grisham. When he’s not writing, Ronald dreams of building websites filled with cats yawning, disclaimers his strong opinions, sings karaoke, and advocates for empathy surrounding mental health.

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