I'm sorry, but I still don't 'get' Facebook

Clueless Woman or Girl

Every other week, I get a call or an e-mail from my friends: “Dude, you never come online anymore!”

Uhm? I do come online. I use the crap out of Google Talk, Skype, Freenode, and Twitter.

But, it seems my problem is, I don’t *gasp* use Facebook.

A Little Background

This hasn’t been the first time I’ve been criticized for not using a popular communication portal. Back when MySpace was like uber-popular, everybody and their mother seemed to question why I never “checked my profile.”

I didn’t get MySpace. I thought it was ugly, horribly coded, and utterly pointless.

“But you can add friends and find people!”

I’m an introvert. I don’t like finding people. In fact, stay away from me! Okay, I don’t have it that bad, but I like finding people on my own terms.

MySpace to me is like a giant Geocities guestbook where people leave random out-of-context messages that are useless to about 99.999999% of anyone else out there.

Since I had my own domain and blog, I felt it redundant. I also didn’t like giving someone else control of all my images, content, and drunken rants.

From MySpace to Facebook

Facebook to me was like a breath of fresh air. It was well designed. Somewhat user friendly.

Then it seemed everyone from MySpace started coming over.

Yep, just received another application request: “Guess what I just said about you? Install XYZ app to find out.”

Who cares? Block. Delete. Uninstall. Just leave me the hell alone!

Then people started posting random messages on my Wall.

“Hey. Haven’t heard from you in a while. How are you?”

To be honest, the Wall is the one thing about Facebook I absolutely do not get. If you really want to get ahold of me, my phone number isn’t hard to find. And neither is my e-mail address.

Oh, and you’re going to send me a message using Facebook? Ick. Just yet another place to log in and attempt to reply in an interface that is a half-ass’d attempt to create a competent e-mail system.

In all honesty, I rarely log into Facebook anymore. I just don’t ‘get’ it.

Others do. All power to ’em. Perhaps it’s a great way to meet old friends and show off party photos. It’s just not for me.

Ewww, but you use Twitter

Yes, I use Twitter. And granted, sometimes the signal-to-noise ratio is quite high.

But Twitter is only as good as the people you follow, and I’m quite picky.

I will say one good thing about Twitter. It has helped me more than all the job sites I tried over the past year. It helped me land not one, but three different jobs (one of which I’m currently employed at full time).

It took me a while to get the usefulness Twitter. But I’ve been on Facebook longer, and I still don’t see the point.

Yes, I’ll admit I’m ignorant and clueless regarding Facebook

I turned up my privacy to the max. I stopped all application requests. I even disabled my magical Wall.

I’m not a Wall. I’m not an application. I’m not a stupid tag.

If you want me, come and get me.

20 Comments

  1. I feel your pain. I can’t leave facebook up all day nor would I want to. I do use Skype and google talk quite a bit and get the same thing you do. Maybe one day it will fall away.

  2. My kids and one female friend wants me to join Facebook. My kids did set up a Facebook account for my Wife and I think she uses it. But I share the same attitude you do – why???? Anyone who knows me can contact me through phone or email.

  3. Install Pidgin and then grab the FaceBook plugin. It allows you to use the FaceBook IM client via a proper desktop setup (along with gChat, MSN, Yahoo messenger, AIM and any other IM service you may choose).

    I rarely log into FaceBook, but my FaceBook friends don’t realise this and assume I’m on it 24/7 whereas I’m really just using Pidgin to access it in a non-obtrusive (ie: I don’t need to keep visiting their website) way.

  4. Social Networking sites are highly dangerous for kids. Many of the Social Networking sites not allowing if your age is less than 18. But I seen facebook is even allowing 12 year old boy/girl.

    I was always thinking why we need such social networking sites…

    • This is the reason why we parents should be very aware of this and learn this stuff. We should have a way to avoid such danger by personally talking to our kids and explaining the dangers ahead.

  5. Facebook is useful in some ways, and useless in many ways.

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  7. Well, like it, hate it, or love it, it is the most popular website on the planet, so, if you want to connect to the most amount of people, facebook is the way to go… However, there are different strokes for different folks

    • “if you want to connect to the most amount of people”

      This is the point, who wants to connect to millions of strangers (yeah, sure, they’re your “friends”)–advertisers and insecure people who I have no interest in dealing with.

      I don’t get Facebook, but I guess I do get insecure, stupid masses.

  8. It’s the most popular site until the next thing comes along.

    Look at eBay for example. It seemed that they would take over he world. But Amazon does more transactions a day than eBay these days.

  9. I’m sorry I just don’t get, I look at the page waiting for some thing to happen, it’s the flattest environment I think I have ever seen, There seems to be very little by way of creation, proper stuff, not images of ourselves trying our hardest to look cool, even worse alternative, I think it’s popularity is given by that certain percentage of the global population that actually love self publicity, we have been brain washed into thinking that the only way to be heard is through this site or any of come to think of it, I worry that we will or are becoming obsessed with just sitting & watching, instead of getting out & doing something, oh sorry we do , but then we run back to Facebook & publish it to all our friends saying look I’ve been for a walk, so you see I just don’t get, like you. Thanks.

  10. One recent Facebook event close to me:

    Greg, a friend has been dating a Doctor for a while then out of the blue some guy called him and told my friend he was the Doctor’s Husband! Then the husband proceeded to threaten Greg. Greg swears he did not know she was married and I’ve known him long enough to believe him.

    And guess where he met her? On Facebook!

    Sure, this could happen anywhere but it’s much more likely with a system where the first few contacts are autonomous. And that’s what facebook is about, right?

  11. i agree with the comments of Lucky that Social Networking sites are highly dangerous for kids

  12. I am really shocked to hear that you dont get facebook.. Its quite strange

  13. You bring up valid points in an interesting way

  14. These days Facebook are just for fun & entertainment nothing else.. i also just use facebook for timepass

  15. I’m extremely inspired together with your writing abilities

  16. Strange… Are you serious you dont have facebook yet?

  17. I thought I was the only one. I have been there. Who cares about how my day is going?

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