I came across an article on Slate that stirred up the emotions I have towards Indian Givers.
Indian Givers (please excuse the rather politically incorrect phrase) are givers who give something away, but want it back.
I would also argue that an Indian Giver is also someone who gives something away, but is angered by a person’s use of the item.
Aside from parents giving a child something as a test of responsibility, I think that once a gift is given, a gift is given — no strings attached.
A Personal Example
My friend gave me a watch for Christmas. By chance, I also received another watch, which in my opinion was far nicer. Since I had no use for my friend’s watch, I decided to sell it to my roommate at the time. My roommate, after a little while, decided to give it to my other roommate.
My friend came to visit one time and asked where the watch he gave me was. I explained what happened and he became very furious and said, “See if I ever buy anything for you again.”
My friend’s reaction slightly peeved me. If I knew the gift was going to come with strings attached, I never would have accepted it in the first place.
Please Don’t be an Indian Giver
If you give someone a gift, give it and forget about it. If that friend or person makes use of that gift, great. If the friend decides to sell the gift at the next garage sale, great. Once you give the gift, it should no longer be your concern. After all, you “gave” it away didn’t you? It’s no longer yours.
What do you think about Indian Givers? Do you have your own personal rant to share?