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Am I Weird For Not Spending Christmas With Family?

Unless you count my cat, I’m spending Christmas by myself in Huntsville this year. It was my choice. I decided I’d rather spend the New Year with my family instead, especially when I looked at the calendar and my limited vacation time.

When I told a lady at my small group that I was spending Christmas “alone”, she asked, “Are you going to be okay?” I responded, “It’s not others who make my Christmas. I make my Christmas.”

Last Christmas was rather rough, I have to admit. I did spend it with family, but I was still separated (from my now ex-wife) and was less sure about a lot of things. This Christmas I am confident and optimistic.

So am I weird for not spending Christmas with family? A benefit of visiting family after Christmas is to buy presents after Christmas and profit off the secular commercialization of Christmas (ironic, no?). After all, Christmas isn’t about presents. And it isn’t really about family. It’s about whatever you make of it, whether it be religious, secular, or otherwise.

I’m going to enjoy myself this Christmas. Just you wait and see.

Writer and software engineer Ronald Huereca has been a developer at notable agencies like iThemes and 10up. His varied background has him working with WordPress since 2006, eventually creating his own plugin which, of course, lead to more. He spends quite a bit of his time volunteering with the WordPress project as a core and polyglot contributor. With all of his passions, writing has been the way Ronald expresses himself best. He has written both technical books as well as fiction. Some of his works include Project Mayhem, Mindefusement, and WordPress and Ajax. “You can only delay the inevitable” is his favorite quote. Ronald enjoys reading Stephen King and John Grisham. When he’s not writing, Ronald dreams of building websites filled with cats yawning, disclaimers his strong opinions, sings karaoke, and advocates for empathy surrounding mental health.

18 thoughts on “Am I Weird For Not Spending Christmas With Family?”

  1. Ronald, I suspect you will find it the most relaxing and enjoyable Christmas you have had. All the pressure of being with people all day just goes away.

  2. working on a plugin? Are you going to call it WP Xmas Alone plugin? 🙂

    Why do even care what people say about your way of spending Christmas? Spend it the way you find the most comfortable and relaxing for you and have a truly Merry Christmas!

  3. 😀 The answer is no. I’m young enough that I still live with my parents, but on some holidays, I like spending my time alone. Some times it’s just the best thing to do. If your single, then it’s totally okay. If you are in the dating stream however…you can still spend time alone, you just might want to let you girl know that you haven’t become a complete nut-case who spends every waking hour with his cat, and his cat alone. It’s good for your loved ones to know. :mrgreen:

  4. I’ll be spending Christmas alone in my dorm. I have to work the day before and after Christmas, and it would be too much effort to travel all the way home for just one day. It’s the first Christmas I’ll be spending alone, but all Christmas is to me is an excuse to see my family, not for presents. So missing my family will be the only thing I regret.

    I’m also trying to volunteer at the Christmas program the local hunger shelter is running. These people are more unfortunate on their Christmas than I am. I might as well help out.

  5. It’s not so bad I’ve always spent Christmas alone. Not by choice I guess it’s the luck of the draw. If I go spend Christmas day with friends I feel really out of place. It’s funny, their my friends so all should be well. But all their family are present and I’m sorta the odd ball in the crowd. You get used to spending the holidays alone. I’m not going to lie and say I don’t feel lonely. I do, but after a while I’ve just got to the point of it’s another day in the year. Except for everyone acting badly while shopping. That I can do without. So if anyone else reads this have a wonderful Christmas and a fantastic New Years! Remember even when you’re alone someone’s thinking of you.

  6. I guess there’s nothing wrong with that as long as your happy with your decision but you also need to inform them of else they will be left wandering what happen to you or are you mad on they.

  7. Spend it the way you find the most comfortable and relaxing for you and have a truly Merry Christmas. I think Christmas is a time for family.

  8. It’s the first Christmas I’ll be spending alone, but all Christmas is to me is an excuse to see my family, not for presents. So missing my family will be the only thing I regret.

  9. I’m also trying to volunteer at the Christmas program the local hunger shelter is running. These people are more unfortunate on their Christmas than I am. Thank you.

  10. I like spending my time alone. Some times it’s just the best thing to do. If your single, then it’s totally okay. If you are in the dating stream however. Thank you.

  11. I think if you really want a good Christmas then the best Christmas would be you and your spouse/girlfriend alone. It makes it special and something you will remember. I had a ex girlfriend that gave me that one year ,just her and I . It was snowing and very relaxing, we were broke up at the time but she still wanted to share our Christmas together. We remained broke up until the next spring,got back together for a few weeks then went our seperate ways . But I will always remember our little Christmas we spent just the two of us. Funny how life goes and how the small things you remember meant the most. I am married now a few years later ,but that was something that still brings warmth to my life,when I think of it.

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