Comments on: When the Wife Gets a Tattoo… And Doesn’t Tell You http://www.ronalfy.com/when-the-wife-gets-a-tattoo-and-doesnt-tell-you/ Life is a blog. I wanna write it. Sun, 05 Feb 2012 02:23:49 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Russ http://www.ronalfy.com/when-the-wife-gets-a-tattoo-and-doesnt-tell-you/#comment-113738 Russ Mon, 23 May 2011 20:18:49 +0000 http://www.ronalfy.com/?p=1463#comment-113738 My wife just got a tattoo, Two nights before she went and had her friends husband do it she mentioned something about getting one. The next night she said she was going to get it done and asked if I wanted to come. I told her that we should talk about it because I wasn't sure that I approved of it. She told me that she had been thinking about getting it done for some time now, well that was news to me. I didn't even know what it looked like or even where it was going. What's done is done, I am having a hard time with it and not sure that things will ever be the same. I am turning for support on this blog because I can't turn to anyone that is close to me because she doesn't want anyone to know about it. My wife just got a tattoo,

Two nights before she went and had her friends husband do it she mentioned something about getting one. The next night she said she was going to get it done and asked if I wanted to come. I told her that we should talk about it because I wasn’t sure that I approved of it. She told me that she had been thinking about getting it done for some time now, well that was news to me. I didn’t even know what it looked like or even where it was going.

What’s done is done, I am having a hard time with it and not sure that things will ever be the same. I am turning for support on this blog because I can’t turn to anyone that is close to me because she doesn’t want anyone to know about it.

]]> By: Roger http://www.ronalfy.com/when-the-wife-gets-a-tattoo-and-doesnt-tell-you/#comment-113521 Roger Mon, 21 Feb 2011 15:00:01 +0000 http://www.ronalfy.com/?p=1463#comment-113521 My wife went out "shopping" and came back with a lower back tattoo. She was 50 at the time and it was her first tattoo. I have none. I actually found it very exciting and thought that it was a great adornment to an already beautiful body. My wife went out “shopping” and came back with a lower back tattoo. She was 50 at the time and it was her first tattoo. I have none.
I actually found it very exciting and thought that it was a great adornment to an already beautiful body.

]]> By: Ronald http://www.ronalfy.com/when-the-wife-gets-a-tattoo-and-doesnt-tell-you/#comment-60534 Ronald Tue, 02 Nov 2010 02:28:24 +0000 http://www.ronalfy.com/?p=1463#comment-60534 I'll ask around with some of my Christian friends and ask if they've had a discussion on this verse before. As with any verse in the Bible, it must be put into context. This post here does a good job of dissecting the verse: <a href='http://www.neverthirsty.org/pp/corner/read1/r00467.html' rel="nofollow">What does the Bible say about tattoos</a>? I’ll ask around with some of my Christian friends and ask if they’ve had a discussion on this verse before.

As with any verse in the Bible, it must be put into context.

This post here does a good job of dissecting the verse: What does the Bible say about tattoos?

]]> By: Victoria http://www.ronalfy.com/when-the-wife-gets-a-tattoo-and-doesnt-tell-you/#comment-60533 Victoria Tue, 02 Nov 2010 02:18:36 +0000 http://www.ronalfy.com/?p=1463#comment-60533 Hello there ^_^ I want to first say I so much enjoy reading your thoughs and I listen too, I value very much your opinion because it's honest, real and very wise : ) but I had a quick question about the tattoo part that's biblical? I know a scripture from before which says ""'You shall not make any cuttings in your flesh for the dead, nor tattoo any marks on you. I am Yahweh." It's in Leviticus 19:28 (I got the wording from the World English bible) Honestly, I would much appreciate sharing your thoughts with me on this. Thank you, Victoria Hello there ^_^ I want to first say I so much enjoy reading your thoughs and I listen too, I value very much your opinion because it’s honest, real and very wise : ) but I had a quick question about the tattoo part that’s biblical? I know a scripture from before which says “”‘You shall not make any cuttings in your flesh for the dead, nor tattoo any marks on you. I am Yahweh.” It’s in Leviticus 19:28 (I got the wording from the World English bible) Honestly, I would much appreciate sharing your thoughts with me on this.

Thank you,
Victoria

]]> By: Dexter Gregory http://www.ronalfy.com/when-the-wife-gets-a-tattoo-and-doesnt-tell-you/#comment-60375 Dexter Gregory Tue, 12 Oct 2010 10:36:19 +0000 http://www.ronalfy.com/?p=1463#comment-60375 I would be upset specially if the tattoo is a name of another guy. I would be very devastated! :) I would be upset specially if the tattoo is a name of another guy. I would be very devastated! :)

]]> By: John Beard http://www.ronalfy.com/when-the-wife-gets-a-tattoo-and-doesnt-tell-you/#comment-60261 John Beard Tue, 21 Sep 2010 11:30:48 +0000 http://www.ronalfy.com/?p=1463#comment-60261 Interesting perspective! Interesting perspective!

]]> By: Tom Hargrave http://www.ronalfy.com/when-the-wife-gets-a-tattoo-and-doesnt-tell-you/#comment-59952 Tom Hargrave Sun, 08 Aug 2010 16:21:47 +0000 http://www.ronalfy.com/?p=1463#comment-59952 I agree with the biblical views but it seems that in your case, you no longer had a marraige. And in this case your body is your business - not yours and a ex-his business! I agree with the biblical views but it seems that in your case, you no longer had a marraige. And in this case your body is your business – not yours and a ex-his business!

]]> By: Denise http://www.ronalfy.com/when-the-wife-gets-a-tattoo-and-doesnt-tell-you/#comment-59951 Denise Sun, 08 Aug 2010 14:26:02 +0000 http://www.ronalfy.com/?p=1463#comment-59951 I am the wife in the above question. I would like to add a little background. The marriage had been rocky at best most of the marriage. I have always wanted a tattoo even before getting married. I have been hurt for many years during the marriage by lies and porn. Even him divorcing me due to money problems. The divorce happened 5 years ago and has ripped my heart out. I am not allowed to do anything with my mom-was offered a trip of a lifetime and was told I can not go. WITH MY MOM.... I am tired of doing things for everyone else and this was for me. I know some people do not agree with tattoos and have gotten different biblical views. Maybe this background will help. I am the wife in the above question. I would like to add a little background. The marriage had been rocky at best most of the marriage. I have always wanted a tattoo even before getting married. I have been hurt for many years during the marriage by lies and porn. Even him divorcing me due to money problems. The divorce happened 5 years ago and has ripped my heart out. I am not allowed to do anything with my mom-was offered a trip of a lifetime and was told I can not go. WITH MY MOM…. I am tired of doing things for everyone else and this was for me. I know some people do not agree with tattoos and have gotten different biblical views. Maybe this background will help.

]]> By: david http://www.ronalfy.com/when-the-wife-gets-a-tattoo-and-doesnt-tell-you/#comment-59950 david Sun, 08 Aug 2010 13:19:29 +0000 http://www.ronalfy.com/?p=1463#comment-59950 What if the husband new about her wanting to get one and she understood that he absolutly dislikes tattoos to a great effect and the wife new and was told that a 20 year marraige would end over it and she did it anyway? What if the husband new about her wanting to get one and she understood that he absolutly dislikes tattoos to a great effect and the wife new and was told that a 20 year marraige would end over it and she did it anyway?

]]> By: Tom Hargrave http://www.ronalfy.com/when-the-wife-gets-a-tattoo-and-doesnt-tell-you/#comment-58848 Tom Hargrave Wed, 02 Jun 2010 02:10:14 +0000 http://www.ronalfy.com/?p=1463#comment-58848 Michelle, It seems like you have crossed an invisible line with your spouse and maybe broken a deeply hidden taboo with him. This happens more often than most realize, particularly when both are very condescending. One goes out on a limb for a "want" while the other reserves his opinion. But when the "event" finally happens and it could be a tattoo, a motorcycle, sky diving lessons, the spouse finally reacts. It's almost like it wasn't real until NOW. I hope you work things out but if things continue to go south then I recommend enlisting some outside help, even finding another marriage counselor. Psychologists and councelors are like any other professional. There's good ones and there's bad ones. Michelle,

It seems like you have crossed an invisible line with your spouse and maybe broken a deeply hidden taboo with him. This happens more often than most realize, particularly when both are very condescending. One goes out on a limb for a “want” while the other reserves his opinion. But when the “event” finally happens and it could be a tattoo, a motorcycle, sky diving lessons, the spouse finally reacts. It’s almost like it wasn’t real until NOW.

I hope you work things out but if things continue to go south then I recommend enlisting some outside help, even finding another marriage counselor. Psychologists and councelors are like any other professional. There’s good ones and there’s bad ones.

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