Men With Long Hair
This post was written as part of Peeve Week 2: Stereotypes.
One evening in late July 2006, my brother and sister went on a cutting spree. That was the day I cut my long hair after growing it out for over two years.
I can’t exactly say I was treated the best with my long hair. The service I received at restaurants was horrible, and my co-workers didn’t exactly treat me as pleasant as they could have.
I’m really glad I cut my hair, since most people treat me a lot better. I was also sick of people mistaking me for a woman. However, I want to de-bunk some of the stereotypes of men with long hair coming from my personal experience.
Men With Long Hair are Gay
Although I can’t speak for all men with long hair, I am not a homosexual. I grew out my hair because my wife wanted me too. I did it out of respect for her. So the entire time I had long hair, I was married to a woman. I would hope that alone would speak to my sexual preference.
As for the reason I cut my hair… that is slightly personal, but let’s just say the reason to keep my hair long was no longer there.
Men With Long Hair are Criminals
I was a big troublemaker when I was a kid and teenager. I’ve done my fair share of illegal activity. However, I’m fairly transparent about it and have never been arrested (been handcuffed though) or been convicted of a crime.
Men With Long Hair are Bikers With Tattoos
I personally don’t like motorcycles. I don’t see the appeal. I love riding a bicycle, but I think that motorcycles are a death wish on two wheels.
I also don’t have one tattoo. During my rebellious teenage years, I still had enough sense to know that I would lose any interest in a tattoo the next time I buy a new pair of shoes.
I’m still not too fond of tattoos and I highly doubt I’ll ever get one. Perhaps when I’m eighty or something?
Men With Long Hair are Unkempt
Some people associate men with long hair as unclean or dirty. I tried to use the best hair products and I washed my hair every day. My hair was nice and shiny, but I often put it in a pony tail since it was getting way too long.
Do I Miss My Long Hair?
Ever since I cut my hair, my bad hair days have gone away. It takes me two minutes to comb my hair now instead of waking up and brushing the crap out of my hair to get all the knots out. Working out is so much easier also without all that long hair to get in the way.
Every now and then when I have the windows down in my car, I miss my long hair. Then I think of the times the wind changed and I ended up with a hairball.
I don’t really miss it and there’s not really any reason for me to ever grow out my hair again.
Join the Discussion (39 Comments)
I guess long hair was not for you then. I personally would never cut mine
Posted on June 24th, 2007 at 9:46 pm
Kenneth,
Yes, definitely wasn’t for me. The work culture and everything wasn’t very friendly towards people with longer hair, so I’m glad I cut it in that respect.
Posted on June 25th, 2007 at 7:03 am
Pple would usually prefer guys wif short hair..maybe so they can differentiate the gender more easily ba..
Posted on July 4th, 2007 at 6:29 am
you cop-out. You grew your hair for your wife, why? and you cut it because people in the world treated you different, boo hoo. thats so lame. well you must be happy now that you fit in with the world, sell out.
Posted on August 16th, 2007 at 12:18 pm
I have long hair. Hair care is easier now. I no longer have to use a comb or brush. When it was short, it went all over the place but now it falls down easily. I like my hair now; my hair is my choice and now I am happy. Your hair was your choice and just as the guy with the short hair should not make a judgment of me, I will make a judgment of you. Congratulations for making an active choice instead of just following a crowd.
Posted on August 16th, 2007 at 12:40 pm
oh man … long hair suits u very well … the pic with the long hair looks great …
the pic with the short hair … well … no comment
it’s **** unfair … i always want hair beyond my a*s but f*****g nature punished me with thin, max. shoulderlenght hair … i would murder if i could get such great genetic hair configuration like yours …
i’m so sad if i see heads with great manes such as yours cutting it off and then looking like mainsream clones …
but everyone has it’s own preferences … it’s only unfair that ppl with short-hair wishes get the genetic configuration of longhairs and ppl who want longhair get those ugly short genetic config.
greez,
a punished soul
Posted on September 8th, 2007 at 11:42 pm
I would have to say you look alot better with long hair, but maybe I’m just saying that because i have long hair.
I too know how you feel, people have often judged my on my hair. Some people actually want to beat me up becuase of it.
But that is no reason to give it up. I love my long hair and I never want it to go away. Infact I wish more men would have long hair. But that probably won’t happen because of the media, maybe in the next gereration of people.
Anyway i guess people have a right to decide on how they look, and I’m glad you chose what your happy with.
Peaceout 0/
P.S. I’m not a hippie. Lol.
Posted on September 16th, 2007 at 6:59 am
OMG!!! How could you??? In the photo above you look fabulous and fancy. I’ve never seen a man with so long hair. You had long, straight hair and chocolate-like color. I can’t see the reasnon that made you to do that. I’m 16 and I’m growing my hair for year and a half and it’s no good. It’s shoulder-length. Personally I dream to have hair like yours. When I saw the photo I was speechless - literally. Did it grow naturally or you added some “secret ingredients”??? One two things - because your hair is so damn long, I wonder how did you dried it - with blow drier or you left it to dry by its own. I suppose that your hair got damaged or at least had split ends and my question is how did you handled that? what did you actually use or just went to the hairdresser and just cut the damaged ends???
please answer….
Posted on September 23rd, 2007 at 4:06 pm
Alright I am a guy with long hair. Actually a gay guy with long hair and honestly it’s SO HARD. I live in Los Angeles and I go to West Hollywood (Gay city) almost everyday. I always get a comment from a gay guy about how bad it is and to cut it and this and that.
Also I’ve gotten turned away from hundreds of job interviews because of my hair. It really is sad to hear that someone else went through the same drama that I go through because of certain inches of lenght on hair.
Guys have dumped me when they know I won’t cut it and I go from relationship to relationship being told to cut my hair. Unlike you… I am stubborn and my hair is part of me. I believe we need to make a change here. We need to stop being so anal about hair. It really is not that important.
I have a masters degree in my field and I am very capable of doing as much business as anyone with short hair. Same thing with love. I have a better body than most short hair gay men. It’s amazing to see that people rather date someone out of shape with short hair, rather than someone in excellent shape with long hair.
It’s angering but I feel that someone needs to go against the rules to make a change. So instead of ‘adjusting’ to what society shapes you to be (work and treatment) and everything. You need to change society. I can’t judge you because I don’t know you. But it is sad to see that you cut your hair just to follow rules that are very irrational and subjective.
Posted on November 12th, 2007 at 7:05 am
it looks cool personally i’d prefare long hair short hair falls down when it ties back (if you can tie it back)and as it gets longer it flicks up all over the place. and it’s up to a person personally how many times a week they wash it. i never think of guys with long hair is dirty it’s anything but, guys with long hair i think of fantasy characters the heroic type who risks his life to. save others it’s a good image. and as for gay guys well i know about 6 and none of them have anything close to long hair. and any how you’re hair compliamented you’re eyes well, and growing hair takes a long time, and you abling to grow it that fast, it’s a shame to have cut it, i’ve been growing my hair and it is’nt getting far i’ve even taken tablets for hair groth to encourage it but it’s too slow.
Posted on December 12th, 2007 at 2:58 pm
hey….i noticed your pic wehn i was looking for men with long hair in the net.my woman opinion is that…with the long hair you’re a superwow guy handsome…..i mean we are talking for the perfect guy!…and when u cutted your hair…:( so ordinary so…. so many women wouldnt notice you when walking down the street…:(i am sorry…but all woman kind hope you had long hair again
Posted on January 13th, 2008 at 8:07 am
I’m middle aged as defined by slightly over fifty and have been growing my hair for 13 months. It was about 1/4″ long when I decided that I was entirely too put out by making appointments to have it cut and really not entirely competent to serve as my own barber. So, shortly after the New Year in ‘07 yet another dear friend was diagnosed with a particularly virulent variety of cancer. I had heard of Locks for Love and decided to let my hair grow so that I might eventually contribute it to that organization as a tribute to people that I know, have known or never did and never will know that suffer the malize. I’ve seen Locks for Love dished for their practices but for me, it isn’t so much what they will do with my hair rather the principle of doing this simple thing for other people. Did I say simple? Well, let me tell you-sterotype this! I am from the South and enjoy being self reliant. I don’t hire or bribe others to do yard work, home repair (generally) or other manual labor and I really like to be out of doors when it’s practical. Problem is, hair in the face and that it can get damn hot in Dixie not to mention negative bias toward most anything that goes about on two legs and that doesn’t sip sweet tea, go to church on Sunday or wear a “neck tie,” to work. There is a lot of hair on this old head and the texture is fine, the envy of many-or so they say. Compliments do not keep my hair in tie backs, clasps or any number of other gizmos-they all soon slide right out of my hair and the next thing that I know I’m inhaling hair, it’s in my eyes or vexing me in some other way. I’m hanging in there and anxious for the day that will come when I can keep it out of my face without a visor, ball cap or fedora-those ecoutrement are each a distraction in their own way and do not particularly compliment long hair (in my humble opinion.) Beside all of the negatives, I like my hair long. I have many detractors including close friends and enemies(those whom the old and wise keep closer than friends.)The last formal portrait that I really looked forward to was done when I was 19 and I had hair the length that it is now. The same artist is enthusiastic about doing a follow up and I will commission this one to be done on canvass rather than paper, it will hang at my headquarters building. So, Ivanos and any one else stick to your guns, hang out with a crowd that is not quite so shallow [how many of the people in the community that you mentioned are as talented, educated or independent as you (?)and I take it that you're not looking for Deliah anyway. . .] use your wiles and education to position yourself as a leader, not just an employee and let your freak flag fly.
Posted on January 18th, 2008 at 5:54 pm
Hehe i tought you are the guy on this main page photo but then i clicked the links.
I noticed diffrent headshapes and all (the bearded guy has bigger forehead than you.You trickster you! But still you looked better with longer hair!But i say this cause i wanna grow my hair longer, so Im biased.
Posted on January 23rd, 2008 at 3:42 am
Dude
you shouldnt of cut it espacaiily cause of how people treat you. Mines half way down my back an i am growing it to my ass. my chick loves it and so do i. I dont give a F–K what other people think. I also got a 4 inch face tail (devil lock) which adds to the look.
Usually i wear it loose but sometimes my chick will brade it whick also rocks. by yhe way im a longhair with tats, piercings an a bike.
inkedtrash2@aol.com
Posted on January 28th, 2008 at 12:42 pm
Personally, my hair is easy to take care of long, and was much more difficult when short. OTOH, long hair with layers was just as unruly as short for me, it was only when I went to long one-length hair that I could control it. Until then I couldn’t go more than five minutes between combing or I looked like a wreck!
However, YMMV, and I can see how some people might find long hair more difficult to deal with than short. There are so many variations in hair. You can have coarse or fine strands, thick or thin coverage, and curly, wavy or straight hair in any combination, and they don’t behave the same. Mine is fine/thin/wavy, and long one-length hair is the only style where it doesn’t stick out in strange directions.
Anyway, I have long hair because I like it, and because of my biker/hippie history. If you grew yours for someone else, and she’s gone, then I guess you have no reason to keep it. My wife doesn’t seem concerned either way whether my hair is long or short, FWIW.
As for work, I haven’t really had a problem, AFAIK, but some people do. Also, it’s hard to know why someone doesn’t hire you, as they usually never say. Probably there are many jobs I didn’t get. IME it’s usually the worst jobs that won’t hire longhairs, but then you have a Master’s and have had problems and I only have a Bachelor’s degree, so go figure? I also don’t notice that anyone treats me badly because of it. Maybe you just have to have confidence in who you are, but I guess in your case it’s who you aren’t, so it wouldn’t work!
At least you have seen life through our eyes. That’s a worthwhile thing. You’re one less person who will try to put us longhairs down.
Peace!
Posted on January 31st, 2008 at 8:09 pm
hey long hair here with my hair 3/4 down my back. my chick wants me to grow it to my ass….i cant fuckn wait
i dont give a shit what people think…its my life. inked, pierced longhair here….only way to live. the difference between me and us an the rest is we have the balls to live like we want
inkedtrash2@aol.com
Posted on February 1st, 2008 at 12:42 pm
My hair has been long now for about 4 months. It grows very fast and is very thick, thankfully. I’ve not had any trouble with society as a longhair thus far. It might help that I portray Johnny Depp for a living, but even if I didn’t, I wouldn’t cut it. I don’t want it much longer than it is right now, but I feel more comfortable with the longer hair as opposed to the shorter. All in all, its a matter of what YOU prefer for yourself regardless of what others may think. Women can cut their hair short and not be berated for it, so do what you will. You only get one ride around this thing called life, right?
Take care all.
Posted on February 7th, 2008 at 4:46 pm
It must be weird living in a place where conformity and subservience is everything. Here, in Christchurch, NZ, The Lichfield St Diner chef seemed most pleased to see me when I turned up barefoot. I even got great service at the C1 Cafe on High St when I turned up naked on NND 2004 for a coffee and a sandwich. You can bet they didn’t care about me being bearded and longhaired.
I do meet the occasional guy who compliments me on my hair and says he wished he could be allowed to grow his long, though. I tend to regard them as “office catamites,” similar to those who fall for IBM’s infamous loyalty test. (IBM = I Be Moved)
Even if I did have a significant proportion of my peers diss me for having long hair, I’d feel even more strongly inclined to keep it long on the grounds that the hair evidently acts as a kind of stupidity filter.
Posted on February 12th, 2008 at 6:08 am
Hi Ivanos
Hey im a gay guy in England and have been looking for a gay mate with long to very long hair for a long time….
There just dont seem to be many around…
Your hair sounds well sexy and im glad u hold out and dont get it cut !
Wish I cud meet a guy like you ! Message me back if you can - lets chat !!
Steve
Posted on February 19th, 2008 at 5:19 pm
Ron, on the photo is it you?..
Posted on February 21st, 2008 at 7:42 am
The photo above is not of me. You can see a photo of me if you follow the links in the first paragraph. The image is a stock photo that was used during Peeve Week 2 (all PW2 posts used stock photos).
Posted on February 23rd, 2008 at 5:11 am
Hi Guys
I would love to hear from any long haired guys in the UK - especially if they happen to be gay - just cant seem to find anyone with lush locks !!!
So c’mon all you long haired dudes - get in touch lets chat !!
Steve
Posted on February 25th, 2008 at 4:46 am
I don’t mean to sound like a prick, but this website is not a personal ad section. Any more comments similar to the one above will be deleted. Stick to the topic at hand if leaving a comment.
Thanks.
Ronald
Posted on February 25th, 2008 at 11:47 pm
Hi im a women that loves long hair. Ive known many men who have cut their beautiful hair off and they look so much older for it! If people want to sterotype thats their problem, I say live life the way you want too cos you only get one chance in life. Karen
Posted on February 26th, 2008 at 7:12 pm
Long hair on guys really depends on the guy. I have seen too many old dudes with scraggly grey ponytails. But I also go the the Ren Faire every year and see lots of hotties with nice locks. It’s a very personal decision to cut your hair, and I know that people won’t take you seriously. My hair is past my bottom (it’s blonde) and I recently dyed it green. A lot of people don’t listen to me the same way they would to a girl with short brown hair, which is really a shame because I am not unintelligent. I’m glad you chose to cut your hair on your own, though it’s a shame our society doesn’t quite allow it they way it used to.
Posted on February 28th, 2008 at 4:37 pm
been keeping my hair for a few years..im lovin it..an gonna keep it natural fo life
Posted on March 10th, 2008 at 11:01 pm
ZOMFG!!!!
I love men with looong hair it’s so sexy!
Of course they must look good to go with it.
Can’t have a man looking like a bear and have long hair. Bleh!
Overall, men with long hair are hawt!
Posted on March 14th, 2008 at 12:01 am
Gutted! Another long haired man gone forever. All men should have long hair
Posted on March 14th, 2008 at 11:58 am
GROW IT BACK! It looked hot!Most chicks dig long hair…n besides, who cares what anyone else thinks.
Posted on March 19th, 2008 at 1:56 am
You looked awesome with it long. I agree too with the poster who says that once you cut your hair, you become just one of a crowd. It’s no coincidence that Princes in fairytales, models, wrestler, movie heroes etc have long hair. It IS attractive to women. Do you really imagine the scene from The Lion King, when Simba did the slow walk across the log flipping and waving his mane was for other lions? LOL, Nope! it was for all the Mummys watching with their little darlings.
Posted on March 19th, 2008 at 3:45 am
Omg you are so hot with your long hair,
I Luv My Man, his hair is to his ass and i would be devistated if he ever cuts it, and he knows that, but i can speak for all women and say how could you? So sad
Posted on March 19th, 2008 at 6:22 pm
All I wanted to say was I love men with long hair, I think it looks stunning, just need to get myself a man with long hair now lol from a womans point of view the gentleman above’s hair was gorgeous, but if he wanted to cut it that was his choice, but you have to do things for yourself, not someone else. and who gives a damn what anyone else thinks.
Posted on April 11th, 2008 at 8:34 am
Posted on April 11th, 2008 at 9:44 am
For every one that disapears there’s another potential boy to take their place!
Posted on April 11th, 2008 at 10:08 am
I think it is very sad that you were treated in these ways because of the length of your hair, for starters you are absolutely drop dead gorgeous and dont see what difference hair length would make to that! I cant believe the world today,I dont know you as a person but what happened to personality and how you treat others……..boggled by the things people go through!!!!!!!!
Posted on April 12th, 2008 at 1:28 pm
i really find long hair intoxicating fun and erotic. man if i could me my match and he happened to have long hair ummm. i dated a guy with long blond hair i loved it playing pulling i really think its hot on certain men. there have been obstacles when it comes to meeting a guy. 1. im black and 2. i live in Michigan. and 3. im shy. im hot and interesting in college you know im not sure why i cant attract the biker/rocker type. i would add a pic not sure how
thanks
Posted on April 24th, 2008 at 4:13 pm
I LIKE REALLY FULL FLUFFY SOFT LONG LONG LONG LONG BLACK STRAIGHT HAIR
Posted on May 3rd, 2008 at 8:11 pm
Long hair man are HOT.
the guy in the pic is hot hahaha 
Posted on May 5th, 2008 at 10:37 am
Aww. I love long hair. But it’s your hair. Nice to hear you’re happy without bad hair days now. : )
Posted on May 14th, 2008 at 9:38 pm